Unraveling the Mysteries of Choosing a Spouse in Dreams
Dreams are a bridge to our subconscious, often entwined with our deepest desires and fears. When one dreams of needing to choose a spouse, it reflects a significant and personal exploration of emotions and aspirations related to love and commitment. This type of dream can signify uncertainty in one’s romantic life or even a longing for connection.
Such dreams may arise from real-life decisions or societal expectations about marriage, urging the dreamer to reflect on their feelings. Whether faced with the option of choosing between two partners or grappling with the implications of marital commitment, these dreams are a call to self-examination. By understanding the nuances of such dreams, one can gain clarity on their relationship priorities and emotional readiness.
This exploration can unfold a pathway to reconciliation with one's deepest wishes and life choices, helping one navigate the complexities of love and partnership.
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- Dreaming of needing to choose a spouse often reflects internal conflicts about relationships and personal desires.
- Such dreams can serve as guides to one's emotional state and readiness for commitment.
- They may also indicate external pressures or societal expectations regarding marriage.
Symbols
- select
- Post:
(Pillar; Post) In a dream, a column represents one’s religion. If one sees a column descending from the firmament in a dream, it means a divine favor and a blessing to have a just, compassionate and a forbearing ruler in that land. If one is hit with a post, or if he uses it to beat someone in a dream, it means hearing or exchanging harsh words that describe the quality of the one who is struck.
If one sees himself leaning against a pillar that he bought or which is given to him in his dream, it means that he will rely upon an old woman for his livelihood, or that he will marry an old woman. A column in a dream also represents a friend one can depend on. A leaning column in a dream represents a worker who cheats his employer, disobeys him and who is a hypocrite.
If a worker sees a leaning post in his dream, it means that his employer will lean toward kindness and appreciation of his workers. Columns in a dream also represent important and strong men who are capable of managing their responsibilities. Owning a column or becoming a column in a dream, and if one qualifies, it means that he will become a leader of his community, a pillar in his own field, or a beacon of knowledge and a pillar of wisdom who is sought by knowledge seeking people.
If one becomes a pillar in a dream, it also could mean his death, or it could mean crying. A pillar in a dream also represents a father, a son, money, capital, a partner, a vehicle, one’s wife or a leader. A marble column in a dream represents a great wealth, a great man, or a great woman.
A column made from granite in a dream represents someone who despises himself. If it is from stone, it means fast changing conditions. If it is a wooden column in the dream, then it represents a hypocrite.
The pillars of a mosque represent the Imam, the DICTIONARY OF DREAMS 93 muezzin, the servants and the people who pray in it.
- Granite:
(Pillar; Post) In a dream, a column represents one’s religion. If one sees a column descending from the firmament in a dream, it means a divine favor and a blessing to have a just, compassionate and a forbearing ruler in that land. If one is hit with a post, or if he uses it to beat someone in a dream, it means hearing or exchanging harsh words that describe the quality of the one who is struck.
If one sees himself leaning against a pillar that he bought or which is given to him in his dream, it means that he will rely upon an old woman for his livelihood, or that he will marry an old woman. A column in a dream also represents a friend one can depend on. A leaning column in a dream represents a worker who cheats his employer, disobeys him and who is a hypocrite.
If a worker sees a leaning post in his dream, it means that his employer will lean toward kindness and appreciation of his workers. Columns in a dream also represent important and strong men who are capable of managing their responsibilities. Owning a column or becoming a column in a dream, and if one qualifies, it means that he will become a leader of his community, a pillar in his own field, or a beacon of knowledge and a pillar of wisdom who is sought by knowledge seeking people.
If one becomes a pillar in a dream, it also could mean his death, or it could mean crying. A pillar in a dream also represents a father, a son, money, capital, a partner, a vehicle, one’s wife or a leader. A marble column in a dream represents a great wealth, a great man, or a great woman.
A column made from granite in a dream represents someone who despises himself. If it is from stone, it means fast changing conditions. If it is a wooden column in the dream, then it represents a hypocrite.
The pillars of a mosque represent the Imam, the DICTIONARY OF DREAMS 93 muezzin, the servants and the people who pray in it.
- Inspector:
(Touch) In a dream, examining means spying, eavesdropping or paying attention to a conversation one should not listen to.
- Post:
- partner
- Affiliation:
(Affiliation; Alliance; Business association) In a dream, business partnership means happiness, or it could mean exaggeration in one’s devotion toward God Almighty, or it could mean going to extremes to attain business success and prosperity in the world. If a poor person sees himself involved in a business partnership with a rich person in a dream, it means that he will become wealthy. If he is hoping for an inheritance, then seeing this dream means that it will come through, and that he will find a business partner.
If one sees himself in a business partnership with a known person in a dream, it means that they deal justly and equitably with one another. If one’s partner in the dream is an unknown old person, then he represents his grandfather and such a year will be a prosperous business year for him. If one’s partner in the dream is a young man, then he represents an enemy, or it could mean that his opponent will be fair in dealing with him, though the person in the dream will remain suspicious but cannot legally dissolve his partnership.
Partnership in a dream also means sincerity, loyalty, truthfulness and fulfilling one’s agreement.
- Business association:
(Affiliation; Alliance; Business association) In a dream, business partnership means happiness, or it could mean exaggeration in one’s devotion toward God Almighty, or it could mean going to extremes to attain business success and prosperity in the world. If a poor person sees himself involved in a business partnership with a rich person in a dream, it means that he will become wealthy. If he is hoping for an inheritance, then seeing this dream means that it will come through, and that he will find a business partner.
If one sees himself in a business partnership with a known person in a dream, it means that they deal justly and equitably with one another. If one’s partner in the dream is an unknown old person, then he represents his grandfather and such a year will be a prosperous business year for him. If one’s partner in the dream is a young man, then he represents an enemy, or it could mean that his opponent will be fair in dealing with him, though the person in the dream will remain suspicious but cannot legally dissolve his partnership.
Partnership in a dream also means sincerity, loyalty, truthfulness and fulfilling one’s agreement.
- Alliance:
- Affiliation:
- pick
- Bite off:
(Bite off; Nip; Tweak) Pinching someone in a dream means envying him, or plotting to get some of his money which he will eventually get. Pinching someone in the butts in a dream means betraying him with his wife. Pinching someone in the belly in a dream means wishing to get some of his savings.
Pinching someone in a dream means hurting him with words. Pinching or biting DICTIONARY OF DREAMS 331 someone’s hand in a dream may represent a snake bite, or a bite of a scorpion. Pinching someone’s hand in a dream also means receiving unlawful money then incurring heavy losses, or it could mean paying a hefty fine.
- Tweak:
(Bite off; Nip; Tweak) Pinching someone in a dream means envying him, or plotting to get some of his money which he will eventually get. Pinching someone in the butts in a dream means betraying him with his wife. Pinching someone in the belly in a dream means wishing to get some of his savings.
Pinching someone in a dream means hurting him with words. Pinching or biting DICTIONARY OF DREAMS 331 someone’s hand in a dream may represent a snake bite, or a bite of a scorpion. Pinching someone’s hand in a dream also means receiving unlawful money then incurring heavy losses, or it could mean paying a hefty fine.
- Nip:
(Bite off; Nip; Tweak) Pinching someone in a dream means envying him, or plotting to get some of his money which he will eventually get. Pinching someone in the butts in a dream means betraying him with his wife. Pinching someone in the belly in a dream means wishing to get some of his savings.
Pinching someone in a dream means hurting him with words. Pinching or biting DICTIONARY OF DREAMS 331 someone’s hand in a dream may represent a snake bite, or a bite of a scorpion. Pinching someone’s hand in a dream also means receiving unlawful money then incurring heavy losses, or it could mean paying a hefty fine.
- Bite off:
- mate
- Sharing a table:
(Sharing a table; Table companion) To share a table with a deceased person in a dream means that one will be paying a pecuniary penalty that will be exacted by the authorities. Sharing a table with someone who is away on a trip in a dream means receiving news from him. Sharing a table with evil companions, evil spirits, satans, or jinn in a dream means fighting against a crime ring.
- Table companion:
(Sharing a table; Table companion) To share a table with a deceased person in a dream means that one will be paying a pecuniary penalty that will be exacted by the authorities. Sharing a table with someone who is away on a trip in a dream means receiving news from him. Sharing a table with evil companions, evil spirits, satans, or jinn in a dream means fighting against a crime ring.
- Dining table:
- Sharing a table:
- choose
- Selling:
If one sees himself as a prisoner being sold in a slave market in a dream, it means honor if the buyer is a woman, and difficulties if the buyer is a man. The higher the price he is auctioned for, the better or worse is his luck. In a dream, the more loss the buyer incurs, the better it is for the traded subject and vice- versa.
There is also a difference between seeing oneself being auctioned and being sold. Being auctioned in a dream means evil. To sell means to part with.
In a dream, the buyer is the seller and the seller is a buyer. Selling means giving preference and value to the merchandise. If what is being sold is worldly, the preference is then given to one’s benefits in the hereafter.
Selling in a dream also means exchanging one condition with another. However, bartering in a dream means to exchange the benefit of things, or to share them. If for example one sees himself in a dream trading something of no value for something precious, and if he is a warrior, it means that he will die as a martyr.
Selling a free man in a dream means rotation of power and reaching a praiseworthy end. As it happened in the story of Joseph son of Jacob, upon both of them be peace.
- Yelling:
- Banal:
A cat in a dream represents a book of records, one’s share from a business, an inheritance, or his work. A cat in a dream also means shunning off one’s husband, wife or children, or it could mean a fight, theft, adultery, disloyalty, eavesdropping, backbiting or bearing a child from adultery, a bastard child, or it could represent a gentle speaking person, a toadying person or someone who desires to be accepted by others, and should he find an opportune moment, he will spoil everyone’s peace. A cat in a dream also represents a banal woman who likes herself.
If a cat steels something from her master, it means that he may pay a fine, have a fight with his relatives or children, and it could mean a robbery. A wildcat in a dream means adversities, toiling and a wretched life. Selling a cat in a dream means spending one’s money.
The scratch of a cat in a dream means that one will be betrayed by his servant. The bite of a cat in a dream represents a hoaxer or a crooked woman. It is also said that a cat’s bite in a dream means an illness that will last one full year.
- Selling:
- spouse
- Golden cage:
(Cage; Digging a grave; Duel; Golden cage; Pearl; Sanctuary; Silver cage) Marriage in a dream represents the providence of God Almighty and care for His servants. Marriage in a dream also means imprisonment, indebtedness, DICTIONARY OF DREAMS 267 sorrow, distress, depression, carrying a liability, or endeavoring to achieve a high ranking position. If one marries a known woman in his dream, it means that he will endeavor to satisfy the normal responsibilities of a husband.
If one marries an unknown woman, and if he could not see her in his dream, it denotes the nearing of his death, or it could mean moving from an old house into a new one. If a sick woman sees herself getting married to a man she does not recognize or know his name in a dream, it means that she may die from her illness. If the man who sees himself getting married in the dream qualifies, it means that he will attain a high ranking job or a suitable position.
If one’s wedding ceremony is made with witnesses only in the dream, it means that he has made a covenant with God Almighty. If he performs a traditional wedding ceremony with its celebrations and festivities in the dream, it means a new job, or it could mean acquiring fame, or becoming renowned for one’s good reputation or character. Marriage in a dream is also interpreted in association with a trade.
If one marries a woman who dies shortly after her wedding in the dream, it means that he will perform a job that earns him nothing but hard labor, toiling and stress. If one marries an adulteress in a dream, it means that he is an adulterer. If one marries a vicious, aggressive or a dominating wife in a dream, it means that his movements will be hampered with various restrictions.
If one marries a deceased woman in a dream, it means that he will revive a profitable project he had earlier abandoned. If a man offers his mother in marriage to one of his friends in a dream, it means that he will sell his house. If a pregnant woman sees herself getting married in a dream, it means that she will give birth to a girl.
If she sees herself in her wedding night in a dream, it means that she will beget a son. If a mother who has a son sees herself getting married in a dream, it means that she will marry off her son. In general, the marriage of a married woman, or of an unwed woman in a dream means benefits.
If a woman marries a deceased man in a dream, it means that she will become lost and impoverished. If a married man sees himself getting married to a second woman in a dream, it means profits. To marry the daughter of a known man of knowledge in a dream means prosperity.
If a sick woman marries a man of knowledge in her dream, it means recovering from her illness. If a man sees himself marrying a living relative who is in a degree of consanguinity that precludes such a marriage in a dream, it means that he will sever his ties with such a relative, or with her family. Otherwise, if that relative is already dead, it means that he will contact her immediate relatives and establish a friendly relationship with them.
- Silver cage:
(Cage; Digging a grave; Duel; Golden cage; Pearl; Sanctuary; Silver cage) Marriage in a dream represents the providence of God Almighty and care for His servants. Marriage in a dream also means imprisonment, indebtedness, DICTIONARY OF DREAMS 267 sorrow, distress, depression, carrying a liability, or endeavoring to achieve a high ranking position. If one marries a known woman in his dream, it means that he will endeavor to satisfy the normal responsibilities of a husband.
If one marries an unknown woman, and if he could not see her in his dream, it denotes the nearing of his death, or it could mean moving from an old house into a new one. If a sick woman sees herself getting married to a man she does not recognize or know his name in a dream, it means that she may die from her illness. If the man who sees himself getting married in the dream qualifies, it means that he will attain a high ranking job or a suitable position.
If one’s wedding ceremony is made with witnesses only in the dream, it means that he has made a covenant with God Almighty. If he performs a traditional wedding ceremony with its celebrations and festivities in the dream, it means a new job, or it could mean acquiring fame, or becoming renowned for one’s good reputation or character. Marriage in a dream is also interpreted in association with a trade.
If one marries a woman who dies shortly after her wedding in the dream, it means that he will perform a job that earns him nothing but hard labor, toiling and stress. If one marries an adulteress in a dream, it means that he is an adulterer. If one marries a vicious, aggressive or a dominating wife in a dream, it means that his movements will be hampered with various restrictions.
If one marries a deceased woman in a dream, it means that he will revive a profitable project he had earlier abandoned. If a man offers his mother in marriage to one of his friends in a dream, it means that he will sell his house. If a pregnant woman sees herself getting married in a dream, it means that she will give birth to a girl.
If she sees herself in her wedding night in a dream, it means that she will beget a son. If a mother who has a son sees herself getting married in a dream, it means that she will marry off her son. In general, the marriage of a married woman, or of an unwed woman in a dream means benefits.
If a woman marries a deceased man in a dream, it means that she will become lost and impoverished. If a married man sees himself getting married to a second woman in a dream, it means profits. To marry the daughter of a known man of knowledge in a dream means prosperity.
If a sick woman marries a man of knowledge in her dream, it means recovering from her illness. If a man sees himself marrying a living relative who is in a degree of consanguinity that precludes such a marriage in a dream, it means that he will sever his ties with such a relative, or with her family. Otherwise, if that relative is already dead, it means that he will contact her immediate relatives and establish a friendly relationship with them.
- Yoke of matrimony:
- Golden cage:
Practical Guidance for Navigating Relationship Choices
- Reflect on Your Own Feelings
Start by taking time to assess your own emotions and desires regarding relationships. Writing in a journal can help clarify your thoughts. Consider the qualities that are important to you in a partner.
Are you feeling pressured by society or family expectations? Understanding these factors can empower you to make choices that align with your true self.
- Communicate Openly with Others
If you find yourself torn between options, engaging in open dialogue with friends or family can provide new perspectives. Sharing your thoughts may reveal insights that you hadn't considered. It can also foster a support system as you navigate your feelings about potential partners.
- Seek Guidance from Trusted Sources
Sometimes, consulting with someone who understands your cultural or personal context can be beneficial. This could be a family elder, a counselor, or someone who shares your values. Their insights might help you see aspects of yourself and your relationships differently.
- Visualize Your Future
Take some time to visualize your future and what you desire in a relationship. Consider what kind of family dynamics, lifestyle, and emotional environment you wish to foster with a partner. This visualization can clarify what you truly value and seek in a spouse.
- Trust Your Instincts
Ultimately, trust your instincts when making decisions about relationships. Dreams often reflect our subconscious worries and hopes. If something feels off or if you find it difficult to make a choice, allow yourself the grace of time.
Decisions regarding love should be approached with thoughtfulness and care.
FAQs
- What does it mean to dream of needing to choose a spouse?
Dreaming about needing to choose a spouse often reflects your current emotional state concerning relationships. It may symbolize indecision or a longing for intimacy, as well as pressures you may feel from society or family regarding marriage.
- Can this dream indicate real-life pressure to marry?
Yes, such a dream can signify the external expectations and pressures that one might feel in real life, particularly regarding marriage. It serves as an invitation to consider how these pressures influence your feelings towards potential partners.
- Are there specific qualities I should look for in a partner based on this dream?
The qualities to seek in a partner depend on your personal values and life goals. This dream can act as a reflection that encourages you to identify what truly matters to you in a spouse, which may include compatibility, support, and shared values.
- What if I dream about multiple potential spouses?
Dreaming about choosing between multiple spouses indicates a deep internal conflict or the exploration of various traits you find attractive. It signifies the need to contemplate what truly resonates with your heart as you weigh options in your relationship.
- Is it normal to have such dreams frequently?
Yes, it's normal to have recurring dreams about choosing a spouse, especially during times of emotional upheaval or significant change in your romantic life. These dreams may represent your subconscious processing feelings of uncertainty or desire for commitment.
